In love with yourself?

Love only exists between two persons, it is a relationship, therefore it is impossible to love yourself. If a person does love themselves it is not real love. When Jesus said to love others as we love ourselves He mean’t in the way that we naturally take care of ourselves. Self-love is Narcissism, and it is the reason the world is self-destructing.

3 Responses to “In love with yourself?”

  1. ian vincent Says:

    One aspect of the unsearchable riches we have in Christ Jesus, which we barely seem to apprehend, is the fact that He is now our identity and our worth – our righteousness. If my identity is in another, and I no longer have my own identity, then I’ve become neutral toward myself, not having a righteousness of my own.

    When a person comes into Christ it is a unique situation bcos they no longer love or hate themselves or even accept themselves, or base their worth on who they are or on what they’ve done, they are no longer self-referring, but their identity is now completed in Christ alone, in his love and acceptance, rendering the rest obsolete.

    People often make a false dichotomy and assume that we either love or hate ourselves, that it must be one or the other, but if I’m dead and now Christ lives in me, and He is my life, then I will tend toward a neutral view of myself.

    If we define self – love as self-centeredness then even self-hate becomes self-love, for to destroy yourself is the most selfish thing you could do, to hate yourself is the most selfish thing you could do.

    The man without Christ serves himself, he can’t escape that fact, whether he is self-loving or self-hating.

    I am crucified with Christ: nevertheless I live; yet not I, but Christ lives in me: and the life which I now live in the flesh I live by the faith of the Son of God, who loved me, and gave himself for me.
    (Gal 2:20)

    If you then be risen with Christ, seek those things which are above, where Christ sits on the right hand of God. Set your affection on things above, not on things on the earth. For you are dead, and your life is hid with Christ in God. When Christ, who is our life, shall appear, then shall you also appear with him in glory.
    (Col 3:1-4)

  2. ian vincent Says:

    So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loves his wife loves himself. For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourishes and cherishes it, even as the Lord the church: For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones. (Ephesians 5:28-30)

    ……..no man ever hated his own flesh….

    So these verses speak of a view of self, and of our spouses, as having our identity in Christ. We love Christ, and we are His flesh and bones, and our spouses are our own flesh, so we love with Christ as our identity, and not with a self-love which is separate from full identification with Him.

    I know it sounds too deep, but these verses say that we are not to view ourselves or our spouses independent from Christ. When we are true to ourselves and our spouse then we are true to Him. Humanism or psychology can never grasp this, it is of a different world, kingdom and order.

  3. ian vincent Says:

    People often make a false dichotomy and assume that we either love or hate ourselves, that it must be one or the other, but if I’m dead and now Christ lives in me, and He is my life, then I will tend toward a neutral view of myself.

    Quote:

    A false dichotomy or a false dilemma is an informal fallacy consisting of a supposed dichotomy which fails one or both of the conditions: it is not jointly exhaustive and/or not mutually exclusive.

    In its most common form, two entities are presented as if they are exhaustive, when in fact other alternatives are possible.

    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/False_dichotomy

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